What Next?

Wherever possible, I like to have an initial chat over the phone. It gives me chance to introduce myself, and you the opportunity to decide whether I'm the right Celebrant for you.

If you decide that I am, we'll arrange a meeting.  This is usually at your home, but we can meet elswhere, or by phone or Skype if you prefer. Wherever we meet,  it's important you feel comfortable and able to share what you wish about your loved one. 

The Meeting

We'll spend as long as we need talking about your loved one (as a rough guide, this is usually around 1½ to 2 hours).  If you have questions, this is a good time to raise them so I can make sure you're satisfied with everything. 

There'll be sadness, and perhaps a few tears. But there can also be smiles and laughter, too;  after all, the ceremony will be a celebration of the life of your loved one. 

Of course, we'll keep in touch after the meeting.  So, if you have extra information, or would like to ask a question, we can discuss things as they arise. 

Preparing the Ceremony

If you or others would like to speak at the ceremony, we'll agree the details so I can be sure to allow sufficient time. 

If you've asked me to find an appropriate reading for you,  I'll do that as soon as possible so you can approve the reading and have lots of time to become familiar with it. 

When it's ready, I'll send a draft of the Eulogy for you to read and check that the facts are absolutely correct.  Of course, if something needs changing, you just need to let me know.  

On the Day

Every ceremony is different; but the starting point  is always the same.  As you arrive at the  location, I'll be there to greet you, and to answer any last-minute questions you may have.

If you're speaking or reading, I'll invite you to come forward at the right moment.  And I'll have a copy of your reading on hand, just in case you need it.  

Things to Think About

Before the meeting, you might like to consider:

  • What did your loved one enjoy doing?
  • What was most important to them?
  • How would you describe your loved one to someone they'd never met?
  • Are there any particular pieces of music, or readings,  you would like to be included in the ceremony? 
  • Are there any other things that simply have to be included in the ceremony?
  • Are there any family members or friends who wish to take part in the ceremony (perhaps by reading a poem or saying a few words in tribute)?
  • Is there a particular dress code you would like everyone to observe? For example:
    • Traditional black?
    • Anything except black?
    • A particular colour?
  • Do you have a favourite picture of your loved one?  If so, I'd love to see it when we meet. 

After the Ceremony

The time following the ceremony is for you, your family and friends; I've no wish to intrude. But, if you would like to speak to me, I always remain on hand immediately afterwards.

Finally, I'll give you a printed copy of the ceremony to keep, and (if you wish) can provide a copy by email for you to send to members of your family and friends.